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Reunited and it feels so good!

Family at its best.
Den

The joy of reuniting

I'm going to refrain from posting any further comments on both my blog and FB until Thursday May 23rd.

I'm taking a "vacation" from writing.

I'm just gonna "be" with family. AND I'd like YOU to add comments at the end of this post about your OWN experiences with reunions. I'd love to hear from you.

These pics show two amazing relatives Susan and I have the honor of seeing grow in life and in spirit. Dr. Scott Randall is married to my sister Kathy's daughter Stacey. I have known him since he was a young teen. I am so proud of him for the man he is, the husband and dad he is and the doc he is.

My sis, Joyce, is the Mother of the New Bride, Mercedes, whose wedding is at the center of this reunion.

I am so proud of all my sisters and brothers.

And Joyce has shown me a level of personal growth and stature that touches many people. She and her husband, Dan, show all of us the value of risk and reward.

I love seeing my siblings and their spouses and kids (and grand kids).

How about you and your family?

Share with the readers if this blog while I am quiet. People will benefit from your life. Share it with us all.

Den

The Office closes its doors tonight.

Sorry, I couldn't NOT comment on the final show of The Office.

It grew up with my youngest son.

It grew up with the marriage of my daughter.

It made me laugh when all I thought I could and would do was weep, due to the death of my oldest son.

 

My son-in-law became an expert on quotes from the show.

He and my youngest son could be heard sharing stories. Loudly.

Words co-mingled together to make me laugh.

"Black bear"

"Where's my desk?"

"Identity theft is not a joke, Jim."

And so many more....

Images and side glances brought me to my knees.

Repeating what happened in "last night's show" were as glorious as watching it.

Having someone else repeat "last night's show" was even MORE fun than seeing it yourself OR trying to repeat it.

It was an open door policy of pure joy.

Now, The Office's doors are locked.

But not the memory of it.

No, no, no.

That's in us for sharing with others as if "last night's show" had happened just last night.

Den

A Reunion of TV Kid Stars just before a Reunion of Real Stars: my brothers and sisters.

My brothers and sisters are coming together this next weekend for a family reunion - enveloping a wedding of of one of our precious nieces.

Shy of Wally and The Beav, or Timmy and Lassie, or Donna Reed's son and daughter or even Little Ricky Ricardo, my siblings were (and are) the best.

In a family where dad was far too harsh & rough and mom was far too weak and yet angry, my siblings were far and away the best. We enjoyed each other and loved our lives - together as kids and a part as adults.

We last were together at our dad's funeral last August, though we did manage to laugh and enjoy each other's company. This reunion will be fully joyful.

Our ages range from 63 to 48.

Seven Mansfields, then. Seven Mansfields, still.

When our mom died 19 years ago we were sad, same when our dad passed away last year. Sad, but not devastated. We learned early to be as I labeled it in my book, Beautiful Nate:  "a band of brothers and sisters".

For that we were, and remain so today.

 

I will most likely write something about our time together. Today, though I just wanted to place our siblinghood in perspective to the hours and hours we spent in front of the TV as kids.

This seemed an appropriate way to do so. Especially when we looked like this, way back when.

In many ways the kids of the 50's and 60's seemed to live lives that were in front of the TV set and then in front of each other, only secondarily. We sure did in my home. These two realities co-existed when television was in its infancy. Not so much anymore, is my guess.

The shows then almost seemed like reality and our little lives seemed like faded inconsequential episodes of unreality that never quite ended... and if it did end, it often didn't end well.

All these years later it is wonderful to know that our lives ARE real and are NOT ending at all - just continuing and doing so at a wonderfully real and rewarding pace.

We learned to turn off the TV and turn to a life lived well, a life lived more abundantly.

I can't wait to see my siblings, their kids, in-laws and grandchildren (those who can attend.)

Den

PS: Here's a cool visit with the kid stars of yesteryear who co-existed with us so many years ago.

Unprecedented: Freedom of the Press v Obama.

If you for a minute think that the uproar against President Obama is a right-wing issue, this letter (below) will change your thinking.

It was sent today, posted on-line just minutes ago.

Read the names of those who signed it and support it.

President Barack Obama is NOW in the worst condition he has ever been in.

And that is with his friends...

This letter is unprecedented.

Read it and see for yourself.

Den

Here is the text of the letter.

 

The following are the signers of it:

The Associated Press 

WOLF BLITZER 

CNN 

DAVID BOARDMAN

Seattle Times 

CHIP BOK 

Creators Syndicate

ERIKA BOLSTAD

McClatchy Newspapers 

MICHAEL DUFFY 

Time

RICHARD S. DUNHAM

Houston Chronicle

ASHLEA EBELING 

Forbes Magazine

FRED GRAHAM

InSession

OHN C. HENRY 

Freelance

NAT HENTOFF

United Media Newspaper Syndicate

DAHLIA LITHWICK 

Slate

ANE MAYER 

The New Yorker 

OHN McKINNON

The Wall Street Journal 

TONY MAURO

National Law Journal 

DOYLE MCMANUS

Los Angeles Times 

ANDREA MITCHELL

NBC News 

MAGGIE MULVIHILL

New England Center for Investigative Reporting 

BILL NICHOLS

Politico

SANDRA PEDDIE

Newsday

IM RUBIN

Bloomberg News 

BOB SCHIEFFER 

CBS News 

ERIC SCHMITT

The New York Times 

ALICIA SHEPARD

Freelance

MARGARET LOW SMITH

NPR

PAUL STEIGER 

Pro Publica

PIERRE THOMAS

ABC News 

SAUNDRA TORRY 

USA Today

JUDY WOODRUFF

PBS/The NewsHour  Affiliations appear only for purposes of identification.

 

 

Why Jimmy Fallon's the voice and vibe of today: Pure talent that takes a chance....

From his acting in Band of Brothers to his audition on SNL to his musical talent, Jimmy Fallon blows away his competitor-comics in subtle and even raucous ways.

Follow the trail of his talent.

There is a REASON he is now taking over the Tonight Show.

Talent. Pure and lovely talent.

My guess is we've only seen the start of it.

Den

 

Men who served. Memorial Day's gift of life: Camo? Actually, yes.

Camo is an interesting use of colors that protect.

The history of camouflage is remarkable.

Hunters use it... from every state in the union.

Even Duck Dynasty uses it.

Service members use it.

The case can be made that camo does such a good job that we often fail to take time to think about it.

By making it's wearers "invisible", it becomes invisible.

Like our rights as citizens. We don't see them, but they are there...and they are real.

It's more than subterfuge. It's cover - it's visual protection against a foe, foreign or domestic. Just like the law within the Constitution.

Both represent safety. Men and women who wear camo (BDUs, ACU's et al) protect us. It's worn by soldiers, Marines, sailors and airmen.

The rights of the Constitution are worn by all of us. We slip it on one sleeve at a time - and we wear it all. Like Joseph of the Old Testament, it is a coat of many colors - many hues of freedom.

Seldom do the colors of our flag match the colors blended together in life. At least not visibly

Red, white and blue are not thought of as colors that hide or protect us, but they do, don't they?

You see, they are the colors that we live and work under everyday. They are the colors that thrill the heart and under which men and women snap their salutes.

 

We wear the camo. Business suits, blue collars, uniforms and college clothes. We stand ready to help. As Americans we each do our part.

My family history of service within the military is clear, but no more clear than yours. We each do our part.

As Memorial Day approaches, let us give thanks to each service member who served and died... and give thanks to those who served as civilians - in a uniform for a season and then out of one for many years.

Soldier-citizens, Sailor-civilians.

And Marines - for they are always just Marines.

I give thanks for my father who served well as a young man and died well as an old man.

He never wore a uniform after his retirement in 1966, as an active member of the service. Not on the outside. But he taught us all to wear it on the inside. Like he did.

Covered in the camo of red, white and blue, my father served well. He wore the uniform of an American citizen for all of his life, only 21 years in  military uniform.

 

So did many other members of my family, the pics are below.

 

As a nation, our service members are us - all of us.

We must all serve well together, gripping hands with those hands of the past.

There is much that unites us as a nation.

And that needs no camo.

Den

 

 

 

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Dr. Kermit Gosnell and the saddest of all tales told: the savage killing of children born alive.

The breaking news has just been released by CBS re: the jury finding Dr. Kermit Gosnell guilty on 3 counts of first degree murder.

It leaves me deeply saddened. It may leave others deeply shocked, though I am not.

I am saddened for the women he mistreated.

For over three decades - as long as Dr. Gosnell has been performing abortions - I've been involved in the pro-life side of the debate; I've also been persuaded that the premature ending of life in the womb has often been ONLY an exercise in debate by both sides. The actual "body of evidence" has seldom been available as items of evidence in a trial. And the women get mistreated, first by men who use them for their own sick satisfaction. Others followed who fiercly debated each side of the debate, but never really cared for the mothers.

The invisible babies show up on the pro-life side as the terribly mangled bodies (of precious children), the invisible feelings of the frightened mothers are often left alone and abandoned by uncaring conservative idealogues.

They show up on the pro-choice side of the debate as cold statistics (of precious unwed mothers) by uncaring liberal political hacks.

I am not shocked today - because I have seen so much of it in the past - on both sides of the issue. Yet, no case like this was ever brought forward in the past. It is undesired new ground to many in the debate. And it is here.

In the 1990's I had to become an expert on two levels in this area of interrupting pregnancies - both as an expert with the facts and an expert with the law (at least the law of Idaho.)

Shallow people on both sides of the debate in those days created an odd-speak; they easily refrained from the use of the word "hate" when talking about their feelings towards their opponents - while at the same time they eagerly employed the word "hate" when describing what they thought their opponent's feelings were toward followers of their perspective. It was a case of I'm OK, you think I'm Evil. Both sides. Demonization never advances honest dialog. Never.

I suppose in some strange way, deep within themselves, people on the two sides of the baby-in-the-womb debate so often held what they saw as a justified hatred for the the holders of the opposing point of view that they broadcast their emotions on the other guy or gal. Maybe then and now.

How wasted is that energy. Hatred has no place in this debate of philosophies.

It may, though, have a place in our emotions...

By our very nature as caring, loving human beings, hatred seems to have a place when discussing the actions by purposeful perpetrators afforded against innocent people; the way women and babies were treated via the results of the jury trial of Dr. Gosnell.

Caring liberals and loving conservatives can hate what this man has done.

Maybe hate has an appropriate audience - those of us who truly care.

I hate that we have to see what he did. I hate that people died.

I've come to a point in my life where I hate having to talk about abortion.

I hate it. In the past I hated having to know these things and see these things and I hated having to show my family - my little kids - these things.

 

I hate that America has to see these real and really ugly things today.

I believe the pro-choice advocates when they say that "no one wants to get an abortion". Death has no beauty, nor does it have any desire to it.

It is death, not termination. It is sadness, not political triumph or defeat. The heart of the baby is stopped, the heart of the mom is broken and the heart of the biological father is often as calloused and uncaring as apparently the jury saw Dr. Kermit Gosnell's heart to be. A gentle caring man is not found guilty of three counts of first degree murder, by a jury of his peers. A gentle caring man does not impregnate a woman and abandon her.

The nation may be shocked simply because of the visible brutality of Dr. Gosnell's medical clinic. His behavior of illegally selling pain relievers was what caused the authorities to raid his clinic. What they found upon entering it was a clinic unlike anything brought to the public's attention since 1973's approval of Roe v Wade.

I'm not shocked by the discovery of how his clinic treated mother and child nor am I shocked by his gulty verdict. My shock ended a long time ago.

I'm simply saddened that he did these things to people.

My heart breaks for the women he so deeply mistreated and the babies that he cavalierly killed  - as if they were so many unwanted domestic animals. (Even such treatment of kittens, pups and other animal kingdom babies would not be accepted by any of us.)

My guess is that even those who philosophically advocate a pro-choice position are saddened and shocked by what this man did.

My guess is that they also hate what he did.

Den

 

Ouch! The New Yorker?

As the new week unfolds, I was curious to see if any major media outlets had moved a position since last Friday on Benghazi.

A major one did.

Read this from The New Yorker - "Spinning Benghazi" Posted just a bit ago by Alex Koppelman:

"(Carney is) playing semantic games, telling a roomful of journalists that the definition of editing we’ve all been using is wrong, that the only thing that matters is who’s actually working the keyboard. It’s not quite re-defining the word “is,” or the phrase “sexual relations,” but it’s not all that far off, either."

Ouch. That helps no one in the Administration today.

Den

Honoring the President - there should be no talk today of impeachment.

This past week I posted some links to an ever-increasing movement of political folks starting to use the I-word.

Today another rather provocative interview came forward with US Senator James Inhofe, of Oklahoma.

The Hill also reported Mike Huckabee’s comments:

"I believe that before it’s all over, this president will not fill out his full term,” Huckabee said. “I know that puts me on a limb, but this is not minor.”

“When a president lies to the American people and is part of a cover-up, he cannot continue to govern,” he added. “And as the facts come out, I think we’re going to see something startling. And before it’s over, I don’t think this president will finish his term unless somehow they can delay it in Congress past the next three and a half years.”

 

I do not believe in the casual use of the word impeachment.

It honors no one.

Not the elected official about whom the discussion swirls.

Not the people of our nation. It honors no one. Those who were forced to administer it against Bill Clinton all felt soiled when it ended.

By its very nature impeachment deals with dishonor.

It is the scalpel used to dig more deeply into the infected body politic.

And it MUST NOT be used cavalierly.

Impeachment must only come back into our vocabulary because it is the only way to legally solve the situation.

If House investigations must be conducted, let it be done with sadness and yet with clarity - not partisan loyalty or sickening political gloating or defensiveness.

Let it be done with the sense of national sadness that Rep. Charles Wiggins conducted his review of the facts 40 years ago this summer and next.

Benghazi's deaths have little honor to them since we do still do not know the truth around them. If these Americans were murdered for any reason other than simply defending themselves, that truth must be brought out.

Like Chuck Wiggins would have done.

We will soon see if Jim Inhofe understands that level of honor.

Let's see if the United States, itself, understands that level of honor.

Den